Overcoming Objections: How to Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Achieve Your Goals | INVESTEDMOM
Are you struggling to achieve your goals because of self-doubt, fear, or limiting beliefs? Do you find yourself making excuses or procrastinating when it comes to pursuing your dreams? If so, you're not alone. Many people struggle with self-limiting beliefs and objections that hold them back from living an unrestricted life.
But why? You’re probably:
Feeling stuck or dissatisfied in your personal or professional life and looking for strategies to help you move forward?
Interested in pursuing a new career, starting a business, or making a significant life change and are looking for guidance and inspiration.
And these feelings have you locked into a vice-grip. Immobilized and wedged between a rock and a hard place. Fighting for your life. Not literally, but mentally and emotionally. You are living a restricted life.
But it doesn't have to be this way. With the right mindset, strategies, and support, you can overcome your objections and achieve your goals.
"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself." - Tony Robbins
How to Overcome Fear and Achieve Your Goals:
One of the biggest obstacles to achieving your goals is fear. Fear can take many forms, from fear of failure to fear of the unknown, and it can hold you back from taking action towards your goals. To overcome fear and achieve your goals, follow these steps:
Identify your fears:
Start by identifying the specific fears that are holding you back from taking action toward your goals. Are you afraid of failure, rejection, or the unknown? Write down your fears and acknowledge them.
Challenge your fears:
Challenge your fears by asking yourself if they are based in reality and seeking out evidence to support or contradict them. For example, if you're afraid of failure, remind yourself that failure is a natural part of the learning process and that many successful people have failed many times before achieving their goals.
Take action:
Take small, incremental steps toward your goals, even if they make you feel uncomfortable or scared. Start by setting achievable milestones and working towards them, one step at a time. For example, if your goal is to start a business, start by researching your target market and creating a business plan.
Get support:
Find a mentor, join a support group, or hire a coach to help you stay accountable and motivated. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your goals, and who can provide guidance and support along the way.
Celebrate your successes:
Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and acknowledge your progress. This will help you stay motivated and focused on your goals, and will help you overcome any fear or self-doubt that may arise.
By following these steps, you can overcome fear and take action toward your goals. Whether you're looking to start a new career, pursue a personal passion, or make a significant life change, you can live an unrestricted life by breaking free from fear and taking action toward your goals.
Identifying Your Objections
The first step in overcoming objections is to identify them. Objections are the thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes that prevent you from taking action toward your goals. They can take many forms, such as:
"I'm not good enough."
"I'm afraid of failure."
"I don't have enough time or resources."
"I'm too old/too young/too inexperienced/too (fill in the blank)."
"I don't know where to start."
"It's too risky or uncertain."
Recognizing these objections is the first step in overcoming them. You need to acknowledge that they exist and that they are holding you back from achieving your goals.
According to a survey by Forbes, 70% of employees feel disengaged or unhappy with their current jobs, and 80% of people don't achieve their New Year's resolutions.
How to Overcome Fear and Achieve Your Goals:
One of the biggest obstacles to identify is fear. It’s a sneaky one. Fear can take many forms. From the fear of failure to the fear of the unknown. It can hold you back from taking action toward your goals. To overcome fear and achieve your goals, follow these steps:
Identify your fears:
Start by identifying the specific fears that are holding you back from taking action toward your goals. Are you afraid of failure, rejection, or the unknown? Write down your fears and acknowledge them.
Challenge your fears:
Challenge your fears by asking yourself if they are based in reality and seeking out evidence to support or contradict them. For example, if you're afraid of failure, remind yourself that failure is a natural part of the learning process and that many successful people have failed many times before achieving their goals.
Take action:
Take small, incremental steps towards your goals, even if they make you feel uncomfortable or scared. Start by setting achievable milestones and working towards them, one step at a time. Let’s say your goal is to start a business. Start by researching your target market and creating a business plan.
"Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become." - Atomic Habits by James Clear
Get support:
Find a mentor, join a support group, or hire a coach to help you stay accountable and motivated. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your goals, and who can provide guidance and support along the way. Even if it’s not your own family, there are plenty of ways to find “your people”.
Celebrate your successes:
Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and acknowledge your progress. This will help you stay motivated and focused on your goals, and will help you overcome any fear or self-doubt that may arise.
Meet Amy.
Amy wanted to start her own business but felt like she didn't have enough experience or expertise. She was afraid of failure but took action anyway. She did it scared. Keep reading to see how Amy’s journey unfolds. She follows the steps laid out in this article in the pursuit of overcoming her own objections and self-limiting beliefs so that she can live life unrestricted.
Breaking Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs
Once you've identified your objections, the next step is to break free from self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we are capable of. They can be deeply ingrained and can hold us back from pursuing our goals.
According to a study by the American Psychological Association, self-limiting beliefs can lead to feelings of helplessness and inaction and can hold individuals back from pursuing their goals.
The key to breaking free from self-limiting beliefs is to challenge them. Ask yourself: "Is this belief true? Where is the evidence to support it? What evidence contradicts it?" By asking these questions, you can start to see your self-limiting beliefs for what they are: stories that you have been telling yourself. Once you recognize that they are not true, you can begin to create new stories that empower and motivate you.
Amy spoke to successful entrepreneurs and realized that they had started their businesses with little or no experience. She then replaced her self-limiting beliefs with empowering stories that motivated her to take action.
Strategies for Overcoming Objections
In a survey by LinkedIn, over 90% of professionals said they had experienced self-doubt at some point in their careers, and 50% of women reported feeling self-doubt compared to 31% of men.
Once you've identified your objections and broken free from self-limiting beliefs, it's time to start taking action toward your goals. Here are some strategies for overcoming objections and achieving your goals:
Create a plan:
A clear plan of action can help you overcome objections and stay focused on your goals. Break down your goal into smaller, achievable steps, and create a timeline for completing each step.
Amy created a business plan, identified her target audience, and set milestones for launching her business.
Seek out support and resources:
You don't have to go it alone. Find a mentor, hire a coach, or join a support group to help you overcome your objections and stay motivated.
Amy joined a networking group for entrepreneurs and found a mentor who provided guidance and advice.
Stay focused on your purpose:
Keep your larger vision in mind and stay focused on your purpose, even when you face obstacles or setbacks.
"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal." - Henry Ford
When you stay focused on your purpose and the mission that drives you, you are more likely to succeed in the long run.
When Amy faced challenges like finding investors and building a customer base, she stayed focused on her larger vision of helping others through her business.
Embrace uncertainty:
Pursuing something new always involves a degree of uncertainty and risk. Embrace the unknown, and be willing to take calculated risks that move you closer to your goals. If things don’t work out exactly as you planned, you can learn a lot from failures or setbacks. Just file it under “E” for the experience!
Amy took a calculated risk by investing her own money in her business and learned from early failures by adjusting her marketing strategy.
Celebrate your successes:
Celebrating your successes, no matter how small, can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals. And acknowledge your progress!
Amy celebrated her first customer, her first positive review, and her first profitable month.
By following these steps, you can overcome your objections and achieve your goals. Whether you're looking to start a business, pursue a new career, or improve your health and relationships, you can live an unrestricted life by breaking free from self-limiting beliefs and taking action toward your goals.
"Your level of success will seldom exceed your level of personal development because success is something you attract by the person you become." - The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
If Amy’s journey resonates with you, here are some specific case studies to illustrate how the strategies outlined here have worked for real people in real-life situations:
John, a software engineer, wanted to start his own consulting business but was afraid of failure. By following the steps outlined here, John was able to break free from his self-limiting beliefs and create a successful consulting business. He found a mentor who helped him refine his business plan, joined a support group for entrepreneurs, and celebrated his successes along the way. Today, John's consulting business is thriving, and he is a sought-after expert in his field.
Sarah, a stay-at-home mom, wanted to improve her fitness and health but was discouraged by her lack of progress. By following the steps you just learned, Sarah was able to break down her goal into smaller, achievable steps and stay motivated along the way. She found a support group at her local gym, set achievable milestones for her fitness goals, and celebrated each milestone along the way. Today, Sarah is in the best shape of her life and is proud of her progress.
Michael, an aspiring writer, wanted to publish a novel but was overwhelmed by the process. Michael was able to identify his objections and break free from self-limiting beliefs. He created a writing schedule, sought out support from other writers, and celebrated each milestone along the way. Today, Michael is a published author with multiple books to his name.
Jennifer, a small business owner, wanted to expand her business but was hesitant to take on new challenges. Because she follows the steps, Jennifer was able to embrace uncertainty and take calculated risks that moved her closer to her goals. She sought out a mentor who helped her develop a growth strategy, invested in new marketing channels, and celebrated each success along the way. Today, Jennifer's business is thriving, and she is a recognized leader in her industry.
Overcoming Objections: Frequently Asked Questions
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A: Objections are the thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes that prevent you from taking action toward your goals.
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A: People have objections because of self-doubt, fear, or limiting beliefs that hold them back from living an unrestricted life.
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A: Self-limiting beliefs are the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we are capable of. They can be deeply ingrained and can hold us back from pursuing our goals.
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A: You can break free from self-limiting beliefs by challenging them. Ask yourself: "Is this belief true? Where is the evidence to support it? What evidence contradicts it?" By asking these questions, you can start to see your self-limiting beliefs for what they are: stories that you have been telling yourself.
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A: You can overcome objections by identifying them, breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, creating a plan, seeking out support and resources, staying focused on your purpose, embracing uncertainty, and celebrating your successes.
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A: Some strategies for staying motivated include staying focused on your purpose, celebrating your successes, seeking out support and resources, and breaking down your goals into smaller, achievable steps.
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A: You can stay accountable and on track by creating a clear plan of action, seeking out support and resources, setting measurable goals, and tracking your progress.
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A: You can manage setbacks and failures by practicing self-compassion and forgiveness, reframing your mindset, seeking out support and resources, and viewing setbacks and failures as opportunities for learning and growth.
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A: You can build resilience and cope with challenges by prioritizing your physical and emotional well-being, seeking out support and resources, practicing self-care, and focusing on the larger vision that drives you.
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A: You can build a supportive community around your goal by attending industry events or conferences, joining online communities or forums, or even starting your own networking group. You should also focus on building strong relationships with your customers or clients, and creating a culture of excellence and mutual support within your team or organization.
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Words of Wisdom: Top Books on Overcoming Objections and Achieving Goals
If you’d like to dig deeper into this subject, here’s my recommended reading list on the subject of overcoming objections and achieving goals:
"The 5 AM Club" by Robin Sharma: This book provides practical strategies for developing a morning routine that can help you achieve your goals and overcome objections. It emphasizes the importance of taking small, incremental steps toward your goals and building habits that support your success. I call it stacking.
"Atomic Habits" by James Clear: This book provides a step-by-step framework for building good habits and breaking bad ones. James Cleat emphasizes the importance of focusing on small changes and incremental progress and provides practical tips for staying motivated and on track toward your goals. A bestseller for a reason.
"The Obstacle is the Way" by Ryan Holiday: This book provides a philosophical approach to overcoming obstacles and objections, emphasizing the importance of reframing challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. Ryan draws on examples from history and philosophy to provide practical insights and strategies for achieving your goals. Also, a history lesson!
"Mindset: The New Psychology of Success" by Carol Dweck: This book explores the concept of mindset and how it can impact our ability to achieve our goals. She emphasizes the importance of having a growth mindset, which views challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, rather than a fixed mindset, which views abilities as innate and unchangeable. It was extremely impactful for me early on in my career, a blessing.
"The Miracle Morning" by Hal Elrod: This book provides a step-by-step guide to creating a morning routine that can help you achieve your goals and overcome objections. Hal Elrond emphasizes the importance of taking small, actionable steps toward your goals, and provides practical tips and exercises for building motivation and momentum. It’s a treat!
These books offer a range of practical strategies, insights, and inspiration for overcoming objections and achieving your goals, and can be a valuable resource for anyone looking to build healthy habits and live an unrestricted life.
The wrap
Overcoming objections and self-limiting beliefs is not easy, but it is possible. By identifying your objections, breaking free from self-limiting beliefs, and taking action toward your goals, you can achieve your dreams and live an unrestricted life.
Don't let objections hold you back any longer. Take action today and start living the life you deserve.
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Meet the Author:
Inge was born and raised in Cape Town, South Africa, and moved to Canada in 2010 looking for a better life. She always had an entrepreneurial spirit and started her first side hustle when she was 9 years old – selling fudge at school during lunch breaks.
It wasn’t until much later that she realized that saving isn’t enough to get ahead. She was always very interested in real estate, but saving up for a down payment was grueling and slow, and the demands of life kept getting in the way.
She started investing in herself and upgrading her skills while learning how to invest. She quickly became debt free and compounded her money at a staggering rate.
It wasn’t until she became a coach that she realized how significant an impact she can make in people’s lives by sharing her journey, learnings, and processes.
So here she is, advocating for everyone who is invested and wants to build their wealth, especially the mommas!